“Some spirits
(like moi) just get up and leave before the
going gets gory, and others don’t, but this does not
mean they have psychic pain as their bodies die. Spirits
do not retain the pains of life. So yes, some linger
through heroic efforts, but they don’t arrive here
with that as part of them.
“Spirits arrive about the same, whether they died in
a horrible way or just expired in their sleep. The
transition is what makes them D&C, not
the physical realities. So no one comes here hurting,
although some first-timers come here thinking that
hurting would be a badge of honor, and so they concoct
their own sense of hurt. And boy, do we get a kick out of
that.
“Once the departure is begun, no pain–just as
those with NDEs say
that as soon as they transmit into that awareness, they
feel nothing physical from that side until they return to
that side. So, no
pain, all gain.
“One of the clues is: the less D&C, the more
times around.
“So when we overhear people speak about a good
death, hey, they’re all good from this side’s
perspective. Any problems are on your side, and with the
surviving.” (11/11/2005 - G#68)
"We don't have illness here, but don't believe that
all suffering is left behind. Here sometimes we suffer
from a form of spirit disconnect, in which our entity
parts don't go in sync. And then we are miserable--just
like unstable entities. We feel (if feeling is
the right word) as if we are on the verge of
disassembly... ouch. We can't get our acts
together, so to speak, and so we can't speak, so to
think, and our thoughts just don't go through. It's like
being a set of mismatched parts, and being alone as each
part.
"But since we spirits... oooOOOooo... don't and
can't communicate in that mode, and we'd rather not
remember it, it is not often mentioned... and I'm sick of
talking about... ! Even expressing it feels bad. Pithpit:
bigger than a tidbit and tastier, too... ARF."
(12/9/2005 - G#69)
"Energy always flows inordinately when we assume
responsibility for another spirit. Mothers are exhausted
because of this; novice counselors, and first-year
ministers, and people with bad boundaries. When the
personal circumstances don’t warrant the exhaustion
perceived, then this is often the case.
“So, a person experiences a death, and their life
seems to move ahead, but they are tired by a life which
makes few demands. Look for a link of assumed
responsibility with the departed spirit. The reason some
talk of taking spirits to the light is not about the
spirits, but about them getting to be able to feel free
of the assumed responsibility. The dead can get to the
light perfectly well, unless some living are hanging on.
And don’t do us any favors. Know it is you
the favor is for! But I rant.” (8/6/2007 - G#70)
"Some spirits are here, but
think they are alone because this doesn’t match
their suppositions. They believe, but not in this exact
plane. It will dawn on them, and suddenly they’ll
say ‘Wow, where did you all come from.’ And
others just wander as if alone forever, while in the
midst of us. Consider being right by LD and
not knowing it. It is just like you there, until
one day a spirit pops out and you suddenly see so many...
ARF... and dogs, too... meow... and cats, too...
grrrr... and tigers, too, o my.
“And when the insight reaches a critical point,
suddenly we see it all--quantum.
“So, things just keep opening up here. It means that
things are more like flowers than tape measures. They
have a pattern of development, but it is not
linear.” (12/14/2007 - G#71)
“Now, some of my detractors have said I give a great
reading but I’m short on specifics about the
afterlife. They say I’m just a spirit with a rap.
They say they can’t get definite answers from PtoPs.
Now let me just say this: Ah. It’s like
this:
“I met this spirit down by the Second Gradius of
Doubt. He had been around a number of times, and he
wanted to know how many times more. Now, I could give him
a number, but that would be speculation; I could give him
a promise, but that would be presumptive; or I could give
him a PtoP about spiritual choices, and then if he opened
his spirit, he could see his own answer.
“You see, this is not about me. It’s about
those who hear me or read me, and then discover
themselves. But if I am pressed, I will say that if you
listen to me, you will get a 20% reduction in anxiety
and, in the second life, 33% wider choices. And those are
not my numbers, but numbers decided by the universal
accountants.
“Ok, the spirit over there. Hi. ‘I’m new
to this.’ Welcome. You must be tired. ‘I am.
But how long will I be here.’ Now that’s the
kind of question I keep hearing over and over again. This
is a place of spirits that are restless. We are a
restless generation. We do not sleep. We do not rest. We
move, we act, we decide. And if you are asking restless
questions, you are not alone. Some will tell you to
relax, and others will say ‘We’ll see,’
and others will truck out specifics of the past. But I
tell you--and you can take this to the bank--there is no
time, so there can be no answer to a restless question
other than, simply, Be. And if others want to
accuse me of simplistic jargon, then I say ‘I am,
and that’s good enough!’ Hey, it’s been
great! God bless God, and the rest of us bless us.
“Ok, any Rikkity supporters can call in at
1-800-123-4567. Hi. ‘I was just listening to that
awesome speech, and I can’t believe the spirit is
genderless. Way to go!’ And now, on our Negative
line. Hi. ‘I’m calling from Hell. Just where
does Rikkity get off suggesting we are spirits capable of
being. Doesn’t she know we are all
dependent.’ Caller, are you saying we are products
of something else? ‘I am, and any spirit that can
call itself a spirit knows this.’ Caller, what about
any elf? ‘You liberals always bring elves into this
to avoid the issue.’ On the Independent line. Ayeeeee.
Hi, Spirit-Span...”
(9/3/2008 - G#72)
“I think some over here are trying to establish an
immigration policy. Not everyone will be welcomed.
There’s a challenge. If you apply the immigration
policies in life to the afterlife, do they appear sane or
insane. Just a test.” (1/10/2010 - G#73)
“Don’t want to go
back, because I know everything of value from before
is also ahead. People are nostalgic because they
forget that whatever has been will also be.
So I will drop that ice cream cone an infinite number of
times, but sooner or later I’ll learn not to cry
over spilled cream.
“Yep, the situations recur, but our responses may
not. That’s the name of change. So sooner or later,
I will realize I can’t eat three appetizers, but
that’s down the menu road.
“People clutch and hold too often. And that keeps
not only the situation from progressing, but also the
person. That which we hold tightly holds us just as
tightly back. IN said it: For
every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. So,
grasp for events only if you are willing to be grabbed
back... or groped back. Gropeback
Mountain.” (3/25/2010 - G#74)
“Spirits arrive with their matrix of connection
showing as energy. And those strongly connected by what
you call love and we call connection,
arrive with brilliant energy displays beyond their own
energy. It can be quite breathtaking... if only we had
lungs. But you get the drift!
“It... how shall I say this... it morphs. And
letting go returns some of the energy back to the living.
But the dead can then replicate the pattern from their
own spiritual energies. So nothing is lost, but energy
returns to the creator. And if peeps on your side hang on
too strongly and don’t let the replication take
place, neither side moves on. And this is just an analogy
of what is a spiritual process.
“So there! Ponder that. And it’s 2-way! More
later, film at 11.
“It’s the patterns, not the energy, stupid.
Caught in an inescapable pattern of mutuality, as MK
would say. And until we fully embrace
that reality, we can’t move on–even towards
more complexity. We mistake source for pattern–the
curse of all religions, except SP. Points do not a
picture make, even if each point is right.”
(8/15/2010 - G#75)
“It’s not like pop, you’re here.
Sometimes, like me. But long dying takes longer to focus,
and the dissipation of focus of the spirit. Your spirit
is a localized expression of the field of energy and
information which is your present entity. And death can
spread that out, and you need to regroup, as it were.
“Remember the Scarecrow. He
was him, but when he was being renewed, he was scattered
before being made whole again. Every transition requires
some level of reassembly. D&C is part of this, like
when you get hit in the head, it can take awhile until
you are yourself again. 'Elvis,
living or dead.... Long coma.'
“So, the more the spirit is taken apart in the
process of becoming non-physical, the more it needs to be
consolidated. Hey, the big example was JC: took him about
40 days and 40 nights until he ascended. What do you
think that story was about? 'Mostly
dead.'
“It leaks, oozes. As less is needed to be physical,
more becomes diffuse. So, quickies like me--I am out of
there before it is complete, so little spirit ooze. Zap.
Don’t place values on the process, because in the
end, the effect is the same. Of course, those who have
learned and remembered the most about the nature of their
entity will find it easier to put it all together again,
and those with none may actually be self-disassembling,
in the sense they can’t get their act and spirit
together because the energy glue from outside their
entity is gone. What held them together is missing, and
they never learned and remembered to create that within
their entity.
“Entities which are self-empowering are capable of
change and growth and the ability to deal, even with
ultimate disconnections. Get shorn of your body and see
if that is not a great disconnection. And yet, it can be
freeing at the same time. Like certain people discovering
there can be meaningful life outside of the 5 boroughs...
not including New Jersey.” (9/7/2012 - G#76)
“Sad. Too many arrivals. Priorities need to change.
Take a single terrorist incident and they do all kinds of
things, but something like
this and people change nothing. And
they give the perpetrator press.
“So, 20 kids died and it’s over all the TV, but
yesterday more than that died from malnutrition and
unnecessary illness and abuse. Society has problems
dealing with all kinds of weapons. And don’t give me
any of that ‘sin’ talk. Why can’t we see
that the acts of some people indicate an essential flaw
in them, and not in everyone. Reducing
bad behavior to a human flaw means no one has to be
responsible in this life. What if the news today were to
point to the majority who act out of kindness, care, and
love. ‘Tonight, CBS News will hold a special titled
“The Day They Hugged Their Kids,” and focus on
good parents and loving families.' Nope, focus on the
aberrants. Why give a clown like that the attention.
“If we developed a real appreciation for the good,
then people would see it. But we have a great example
about 2,000 years ago, and all people focus on is his
death.
“Here’s a case for getting people through grief
and into action. Flags at half mast is not enough. We
will see. But here, too many D&C. And it will define
the season for the community for generations, if it is
not adequately dealt with.
“And watch the overlays that will be put on it. At
least the man had
the sense to express emotions and not overlays
(God’s larger plan, inherent sin, devil made him do
it, a sign of our permissive culture, etc.), so they
don’t have to think or feel or refrain from
thinking. Everyone trying to do
something, instead of being with
it.” (12/15/2012 - G#77)
“So, a reminder. Events may illumine a pattern of
culture, but they do not create a pattern. And the
results of cultural understandings may not reveal the
understandings. Everyone likes to point to events and
say, ‘See!’ See what? Events are merely the
lenses through which we perceive things.
“A gunman walks down the street. A sudden rustle at
the corner catches his attention. He raises his assault
rifle to his shoulder. Another rustle, and he lets off
many rounds. The boys playing marbles in the shadows lie
dead. What’s happening. Is he a mentally ill person
on a mission of revenge or a mission of hatred or a
mission of delusion, or is he an American soldier in a
town in Afghanistan. And what makes any one of those
different from any other–especially to the dead.
“We can always find excuses and blame. Understanding
is harder, because of the lenses we wear and use.
“And most people don’t know how to grieve, so
they go for brief grief. And what about 40 days and 40
nights from now for a national discussion of feelings and
understandings–a holiday that is really for
something valuable and visionary. Just mooing.”
(12/18/2012 - G#78)
“About talking about dead people: I remind survivors
to not censor what the grieving say. The grieving
don’t want to hear 'yes' or 'no.' They want to hear
'Tell me more.' Because maybe the pattern of the dimes
they see is all that is holding them together. Plus, we
went to a lot of work to arrange the dimes!
“People should be able to say outrageous things by
conventional standards, because what they are
experiencing seems outrageous.
“And love does not follow reason, but rather
experience. So, they will tread a little way into the
waters of the conversational unknown, and see if others
will either wade with them, or at least stand as
lifeguards on the shore, before they plunge all the way
into the stream of reality they are experiencing. To be
with or for someone is to be willing to get wet in their
stream, rather than insist on staying on the comfortable
beach.
“And even people who have never swum those waters
can wade with those they care about, and not panic at the
thought of the water.
“The greatest gift someone can give a griever is
validation of their experience. And the best validation
is not agreement, but rather, interest. Pith.”
(7/28/2013 - G#79)
"Mr. Rogers presents Loss
and Growth:
"It’s an empty day in the neighborhood. You
won’t be my neighbor anymore.
"Boys and girls, this is a pile of dirt. We dug it
up to make a hole. There are 2 kinds of holes--one with
an h and one with a w. This is one with
an h, and it’s deep and rectangular. Can
you say rectangular. We are going to put
something in the hole. Can you guess what? Our hopes, our
dreams, our love, and Uncle Fred.
"In about a year, in about 4 seasons, in about 12
months, we will really really understand Uncle Fred is
dead. But it won’t feel any better.
"Let’s go on Mister Trolley to the Land of the
Dead. What? You can’t see anything. That’s
because here it’s all spiritual. Now, close your
eyes real tight. And Bobby, no peeking. Now, let your
heart and feelings see."
"The left-out episode of Mr. Rogers."
(11/14/2013 - G#80)
“I need to reprise
something I said about 16 years ago, your time. When
death comes, we focus on the promise of what might
have been as a loss. We project outward to the
sorrows of a vast community who share that loss. We get
angry, we get depressed. This is not how it should be.
They leave behind friends, family, lovers, children,
grandchildren, all focusing on the end of a promise. Yet,
those many days and nights and evenings and dawns of love
and laughter and work and mischief are still there. And
still ours.
“What have we lost. We have lost promise, but our
sorrow for that keeps us losing all we might keep and
cherish. Hold fast to the memories. See them as the
building blocks of relationship. I have to tell you that
once they get beyond the D&C, they don’t look
from here to what-ifs, and they don’t mourn
what never was. But o my god they do go on about what
was–all the stuff which have been. ‘Tell us
about it! We sat through an eternity of Buck's Rock
stories when you first got here. The Yale sagas were a
relief. Until...' That’s enough! And the Papa
stories. And then he showed up! And talk about stories.
But we all do that here, because we cherish what was, not
what might have been. Not all of us, true. First-timers
don’t get with the program. Since it is all about
them, they think the story got cut short. But for the
others, to meet a spirit of only a few years, speaking of
life being full, shows them what’s what.
“Oddly, the youngest seem to be able to let go of
the mystical future the easiest. But teens have it bad,
because they felt so forward driven--always waiting for a
time ahead. And the oldest, in general, substitute
regrets for longing. It’s not about what might have
been left for them to do, but what was not done.
“Tears come and we feel loss, and then think we have
to say why. Just feel. And then start telling
stories!” (3/12/2014 - G#81)
“I want to give you a perspective from this side. We
live–or should I say, die–with much loss. We
leave behind loved ones and dreams. It is wrenching, but
we also must realize that there is sometimes relief. Live
with fear for a long time, and its absence is delightful.
Live with pain, and enjoy its absence. Live with the
threat of death... now, there’s a thought:
anticipatory grief by the dying... knowing there will be
a transition and some ends, and the final chapter of
hope. So, days or weeks or months are lived with the
anticipation or threat of death.
“So, spirits arrive here and are D&C and also
relieved. And also guilty–guilty they are relieved.
‘I don’t feel the old hurt or worry or fear,
but those left do, and so how can I feel good
about feeling good.’ It’s so complicated. And
all that talk about being in a 'better place.' Places are
physical. Feelings are not. So, the talk could be about
being with better feelings, but that would make simple
what is complex.
“I was pissed when I got here. But I was also sad,
and guilty for being sad and pissed when I knew--or
felt--y’all were more sad and pissed. Yep, grief as
a competitive sport.
“Some of what occurs after a transition is a sorting
out of feelings: What are actually yours? What
are yours about others? What are yours about what you
feel others are feeling? What would CT do? So, it takes
some sorting out, and if spirits have lived avoiding
themselves, this can be a chore.
“So, a new spirit is here, arriving in measured
manner, trying to adjust to be-ing herself. And
when you add in all the roles an entity will play, each
thread needs disentanglement and straightening for
weaving into the tapestry of meaning and understanding.
Most leave life with a rat’s nest of experiences and
feelings, and work out the patterns of understanding.
“In fact, for all the talk about 'getting one’s
affairs in order,' we/you/they/everyone usually tangles
them more under the stress of transitions, then
straightens them out.
“So, we greet and support and hug and heal and help
and just wait. I have, so to speak, seen her.
Her presence is among us, but she has yet to recognize my
presence. It takes a process to move from physical
expectation to spiritual awareness. I mean, I thought
Sandy was a dog! ARF. How silly.
“So few have any clue, and even those like you who
experience this will be lost when you really experience this.
There’s a long line over there, waiting to see Jesus
and the Buddha and Krishna. And a shorter one to see
Zoroaster. Woof. And here’s a little known
truth: In spirit, dyslexia means confusing
spiritual patterns. So, a certain dog appears to some as
the Creator of the Universe. I just see Sandy, and some
see a dog.
“So, we welcome, and care for and about. And they
make their tenuous adjustments. ‘Aha’ comes,
and then like the blind women, they can see. Take the
veil from their spirits.” (3/28/2014 - G#82)
“It takes awhile to get completely dead. And others
keep arriving. Some think they are toting
suitcases–coming with baggage. I guess they were
hurrying for a bus when... And they keep asking about
mirrors, like we would need them. ‘How am I
looking.’ We say, ‘Like the rest of us.’
And then they see CT and cry. ‘Hey!’ Well, the
women do. Envy.
“Actually, there is a great striving for the
early-timers to see themselves. Their hold on physical
reality at this complexity is new and puzzling. They
often act like simpletons because that is what they
identify as–simpler entities--and dealing with a
complexity of being in which some remnant tells
them they are not all. Each component entity of
a simpler nature has to grow into oneness together. Not
easy! Like being an only child and then discovering you
have siblings in a complex reality called family.
Getting to know you, getting to know me, getting to know
us... but not them! Always the dance between us and them.
What does it mean to be us, or now me,
and not them or you, but also becoming
part of an even more complex us.
“By the way, hermits don’t move on until they
are more social... and Herman’s Hermits, Mrs. Brown,
too, and her lovely daughter... or is that glovely
daughter. Ever notice that a suitor asks for the
beloved’s hand. That’s to glove her or him or
it.
“So, there’s a glimpse into spirit transition.
Not like we suddenly plop here. Not everyone arrives here
in the same way. And by way I mean, in the
details as understood spiritually. ‘Some have to
wash their hands.’ CT. ‘Well, they do. How else
would they put on the gloves.’ O. I don’t know
and I don’t care.” (4/4/2014 - G#83)
“There’s a sad young spirit wandering about,
and I shared with him my experience of suddenly being
here and not experiencing any excruciating shit. And he
nodded and said, ‘O wow, I know. Like you look down
at it happening, and say to yourself “I wonder who
that poor slob is. O wait, that was me.” ‘ But
out of there, gone in the nick of time.
“So, one is D&C from both the transition and the
sudden awareness of the transition–out-of-life
experience. And so many say--and of course, I don’t
have to remind you they don’t really say
it--that it’s not like in the movies... except maybe
Albert Brooks (‘Bus?!?’).
“And he’s a little pissed, like I was. But
then, you meet others here, and realize it’s not
what you think. Take that woman over in the corner...
please! She keeps wailing ‘I don’t belong
here.’ Apparently, she had some faith that made
promises, and not this. Always fascinating to remember
that on any day several tea ladies will arrive. If I am
asked once more if I want cream with that....
“Wait till you get here. Laugh a minute, and cry a
minute, too. Love to see the dogmatics arrive... ARF.
Some just keep trying to feel their backs, which they
don’t have, for wings, which they won’t get.
Shut the damn bells off. But philosophical: Is it every
time a bell rings an angel gets its wings, or every time
an angel gets its wings a bell rings, or is it when your
wings are ready does a bell ring and then the server
brings them over. Ponder that.” (11/11/2014 - G#84)
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